It was early afternoon on a sunny Saturday. We were stuck in the car in heavy traffic. All three of us were bored and restless. All snacks had already been consumed and endless rounds of 20 Questions had already been played. We'd forgotten our iPods and our phones were running low on batteries. We were nowhere close to our destination.
"Are we there yet?" came a cry from the backseat at closer and closer intervals. In desperation, my husband fiddled with the car radio, and chanced upon the gleaming chords of Das Rheingold. Ah, the Metropolitan Opera broadcast and then, something that stunned us: glorious silence from the peanut gallery. Had we hit upon something that would stave off the impending meltdown?
"What's this about?" finally came the querulous three-year-old's voice. Sensing the possibility of a small reprieve, my brave spouse launched into a more than lightly edited précis of Wagner's first Ring opera: a dwarf, a golden ring, three lovely river sprites, a kingdom full of interesting gods and goddesses.
"I wanna go see it!" she cried. When we gently told her that she might not like the entire story, and that it takes hours and hours and hours anyway, she promptly burst into genuine tears. She was burning to go to the opera and witness this story about the magical ring and all the people who wanted to own it. As adult Ring-lovers, our associations with this music might revolve around Wagner's artistic genius, or, more grimly, about the composer's repellent anti-Jewish writings. For our preschooler, the Ring sounded like a wonderful addition to her greatly beloved stable of princess stories. (Cinderella, Snow White, Brünnhilde ... )
Admittedly, the Ring isn't quite appropriate for a less-than-mature audience, what with its murders and incest and whatnot. But that episode in our car spurred me to thinking about how kids encounter classical music, and how we adults shape those early encounters, whether it's just via what music we have playing in our homes or how we introduce classical music and opera in more formal settings.
We've invited some notable artists, including soprano Christine Brewer, pianists Leif Ove Andsnes and Orli Shaham and conductor Marin Alsop to weigh in on this topic this week. But we're also eager to hear your thoughts and experiences, and to have your voice as part of our conversation.
A few of my own observations as a parent and as a music lover:
- Talking down to kids about music never works, just as it doesn't work in any other subject matter. Children can smell disingenuousness at a thousand paces. Moreover, there's no reason to gate kids only to "music for children." Yes, Peter and the Wolf is wonderful, but it's not the endpoint of the journey.
- I have yet to meet a small child who turns away from new music, even the supposedly "thorniest" — there are no preconceptions about what music is "supposed" to be, which is very freeing. Kids don't sniff at abstract or modern visual art, and they don't turn up their noses at abstract music, either.
- Forget that "baby brain" business — that classical music should be listened to because it will help get your kid into Harvard. Not only do scientists say that it's not true (though many companies have made a lot of money pushing the idea), but it's not a good reason anyway. What's the matter with listening to music purely for enjoyment? On the other hand, a few great things came out of that kind of marketing, like a segment from HBO's "Classical Baby" series that marries a Miro painting to music by Bach. (You can check it out below.)
- Smaller fry have yet to absorb the (false) notion that classical music is stuffy, snobby, or boring. It's just sound, as far as they're concerned. If they can dance to it, all the better.
- Exposure to classical music shouldn't be doled out in strictly educational, "eat-your-broccoli-because-it's-good-for-you" doses. It can and should be part of the larger flow of life. In my own house, last evening's play list included some of John Coltrane's Impulse sessions, Stravinsky's Wind Symphony, the Kronos Quartet's "Caravan" recording and the Yo Gabba Gabba album "Music Is Awesome." (Yes, it is!)
- Lots of the "traditional" avenues of introducing classical music and opera to children are not necessarily relevant to children today. Sure, there are the amazing Bugs Bunny cartoons like 1949's "The Rabbit of Seville" or "What's Opera, Doc?" (also known as "Kill the Wabbit") from 1957, but they're more than half a century old now, and so are many of the references within these cartoons.
- Some live concert programming for kids is amazingly good. I'm a big fan of the current incarnation of the New York Philharmonic's Young People's Concerts. Last season's walk-through of Magnus Lindberg's Feria should be required listening and viewing for audiences of all ages. (And the DVDs of Leonard Bernstein's Young People's broadcasts are a staple in our home collection.) Some such children-focused programming, though good-intentioned, is honestly pretty awkward and stiff — and, when you get right down to it, deadly dull and earnest to a fault.
- Humor is great. Everyone in our family loves Lemony Snicket and Nathaniel Stookey's The Composer Is Dead, even though many of the jokes fly right over our kid's head. And physical comedy never fails to please; I heard more belly laughs than I've heard in ages at Nathan Gunn's performance as Papageno in a Metropolitan Opera "family" performance of the Julie Taymor-directed Magic Flute.
- The music belongs to children just as much it belongs to "us" — the ones with the years of listening experience, who have already absorbed current conventions of concert-going practice (don't applaud between movements, obey the dress code, etc.), and who might well have had years of formal training. Classical music isn't a museum piece to be looked at and not touched, as it were.